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Kink, BDSM & leather events in San Francisco, CA

24 upcoming events listed in San Francisco, CA, United States — kink, BDSM & leather play parties, socials (munches), classes & workshops, title contests, fundraisers, and conferences, posted by the community and moderated before going live. New here? Read the guides.

Includes nearby neighborhoods & suburbs: Oakland, CA, Berkeley, CA, San Jose, CA, Palo Alto, CA, Daly City, CA. Each event card shows its exact neighborhood.

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Class / Workshop21+✦ Beginner-friendly💻 Online

ONLINE: Trans Awareness & Playing With Trans* Folks

Hosted by Wicked Grounds

Sat, Aug 29, 20262:00 PM – 4:00 PM💻 Online

Let’s get thoughtful, get embodied, and open our hearts as we rethink what gender and hot play can be. --- There are so many words for gender, sex, and sexuality these days, and it can feel confusing - or even emotional - when we’re unsure how to talk with our trans, nonbinary, or non-trans partners about desire. Together, we’ll build skills for richer, more connected kink, play, and sexual exploration across gender-diverse experiences. This class will explore language, disclosure, desire, conversations worth having, and the vibrant mix of identity and expression that shapes how we meet one another. We’ll examine the myths and truths we carry about gender, what we want to do with our bodies, and how to play with partners who are navigating their own unfolding paths. Because truly, every one of us is on a gender journey - so let’s get thoughtful, get embodied, and open our hearts as we rethink what gender and hot play can be. PRESENTER: Lee Harrington is an internationally known spiritual and erotic authenticity educator, gender explorer, eclectic artist and award-winning author and editor on erotic and sacred experience. He’s been traveling the globe teaching and talking about sexuality, psychology, faith and desire, and believes you deserve passion and connection in your life. His books include “Playing Well With Others: Your Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Negotiating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities” (with Mollena Williams), “Sacred Kink: The Eightfold Paths of BDSM and Beyond,” “Shibari You Can Use: Japanese Rope Bondage and Erotic Macramé,” and “Traversing Gender: Understanding Transgender Realities,” amongst many others. Lee has been a passion instigator, academic, adult film performer, world class sexual adventurer, outspoken philosopher, polytheist priest/ess, kink/bondage expert, and has been blogging about sex and spirit since 1998. Read more about Lee at PassionAndSoul.com. TICKETING: $30 suggested. We offer several price points, so that cost is not a barrier to attendance. Please pay at the level you can comfortably afford. https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/94af002c62 Patreon members at the VIP+ level may get discounted tickets for $10. Just see your Patreon membership emails for this month's discount code. Find out more at Patreon.com/WickedGrounds! If cost is a barrier at any level, please use the "Volunteer List" to request a free scholarship ticket. We will award as many scholarship tickets as we can on a space-available basis. ACCESS: This will be a live, online class offered through Zoom. To participate, you may need to download the free, basic version of the Zoom app before the class! This class will be recorded for distribution to advance ticket holders. Zoom now provides closed captioning, which will be available for this event.

Party21+✦ Beginner-friendly

H.O.L PARTY SF • The Bigger & Bolder Outdoor Leather, Kink, & BDSM Dance Party & Kink Celebration Returns to San Francisco @ EAGLE SF • 08-29-26

Hosted by H.O.L Party Inc!

Aug 29–30, 20269:00 PM – 2:00 AM🇺🇸 San Francisco Eagle, San Francisco, CA

The Bigger & Bolder Outdoor Leather, Kink, & BDSM Dance Party & Celebration Returns to San Francisco! H.O.L is back in SAN FRANCISCO, transforming the EAGLE into the sexiest outdoor dance floor in town with massive visuals, lasers, iconic imagery, the hottest men, bootblacking, leather & kink vendors, Cigar Area, Indoor “Red Room” and two cutting edge tech and house djs as MATT CONSOLA and DJ MOODY push the night to a whole new level. OUTDOOR DANCE FLOOR DJs
Matt Consola & DJ Moody
9:00 PM – 2:00 AM

Our biggest SF H.O.L. night yet. Two DJs dropping funky house & big room tech house as well as deep, dark, dirty house & techno. Dress less & dance harder. Tier 1 - $20 
Tier 2 - $30 
Door   - $40 Advance Tix: https://bit.ly/HOL_SF2 HOSTS: Johnny (Mr SF Leather 2026) Jamal Herrera Erez Finezilber Brian Abascal John Ruys + Special Guest Go Gos + Visuals & Graphics by MOODY + Bootblack (by Leo) + Leather & Fetish Vendors: Leather Legends & Barbarian Designs (Indoors) + Cigar Area with Seating (Outdoors) + Dress Code: Leather, Kink, Fetish & Pup Gear + And if you need “privacy", go behind the curtains in the Red Room + Venue: SF Eagle • 398 12th Street, San Francisco, CA 94103 Join our email list for early ticket options, promo codes, and more: Join at: https://bit.ly/HOL_MAIL SPONSORS: SirRat Leather • Hank Social • Sweaty Johnson • Swishcraft Music • Leather Legends • Barbarian Designs • BearsLooking.com • Sickening Events •

Class / Workshop21+💻 Online

ONLINE: Ass to Grass: Fitness as a Tool of Domination

Hosted by Wicked Grounds

Sun, Aug 30, 20262:00 PM – 4:00 PM💻 Online

This class explores how to integrate fitness principles with kink play. --- Fitness is a multi-layered practice with benefits that extend far beyond aesthetics, and in many ways, kink operates the same way. Both can be tools for healing, transformation, power exchange, and sensual exploration. The body’s responses to movement, pleasure, strain, endorphins, and challenge can be intentionally woven into kink to build richer, more connected scenes or even empower a thriving 24/7 D/s dynamic. This class explores how to integrate fitness principles with kink play. We will use the gym, free weights, bodyweight training, conditioning, and mobility work to prepare both doms and subs to experience kink through a heightened physical, emotional, and erotic lens. PRESENTER: MF Dom: Dominant | Educator | 8 Years Experience Dominance is more than control; it’s an experience in trust. How do we set up a scene that allows the sub to trust you with whatever will happen next? How do we create and acknowledge boundaries and ensure they will be respected so that within them you both can revel in the pleasure of suspense, pain, and tension? With eight years of practice in BDSM, MF Dom brings a grounded, intentional approach to power exchange that gets you both there by balancing intensity with care. MF Dom specializes in impact play, wax play, electro play, and aftercare. He guides partners and students through the physical and emotional rhythms of trust, sensation, and release. His demonstrations and lessons emphasize safety, consent, and connection, inviting others to explore the power of awareness and touch. Whether leading a workshop or curating a scene, MF Dom’s presence reminds participants that true dominance isn’t about taking, it’s about both partners giving each other a mind-blowing experience built with trust and respect. TICKETING: https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/bdce5cdc35 $30 suggested. We offer multiple price points, so that cost is not a barrier to attendance. Choose the level you can comfortably afford. Patreon members at the VIP+ level may get discounted tickets for $10. Just see your Patreon membership emails for this month's discount code. Find out more at Patreon.com/WickedGrounds! If cost is a barrier at any level, please use the "Volunteer List" to request a free scholarship ticket. We will award as many scholarship tickets as we can on a space-available basis. ACCESS: This will be a live, recorded online class offered through Zoom. To participate, you may need to download the free, basic version of the Zoom app before the class. This class will be recorded and distributed to those who registered. Zoom now provides closed captioning, which will be available for this event.

Class / Workshop21+✦ Beginner-friendly💻 Online

ONLINE: Hoe With Purpose: Erotic Strategy for the Emotionally Unavailable & Sensually Aware

Hosted by Wicked Grounds

Tue, Sep 1, 20266:00 PM – 8:00 PM💻 Online

This class is for aromantic folks, casual players, and intentional pleasure-seekers who want a system for their erotic life, not just vibes. --- You're not chaotic. You just don't want what everyone assumes you want and nobody's teaching you how to build the erotic life you're actually after. The entire world is set up to push you toward romance: the apps, the communities, the conversations, the expectations. If you're aromantic, done with situationships, or just clear that you want pleasure without the relationship, there's almost no framework built for you. So you improvise. And improvising leads to drama, confusion, and connections that cost more than they were worth. This class is for aromantic folks, casual players, and intentional pleasure-seekers who want a system for their erotic life, not just vibes. IN THIS CLASS YOU WILL: • Name and understand amatonormativity; the cultural pressure to make romance the goal, and why opting out is a design choice, not a flaw • Learn how to reframe casual sex as ethical and strategic, not careless • Use the Return on Intimacy framework to decide where your erotic energy is actually worth spending • Build and audit a rotation that stays clean of entanglement and drama • Practice scripts for navigating casual kink conversations with clarity and confidence • Get tools for handling ghosting, rejection, and NRE without losing your footing An intentional erotic life is possible. This class shows you how to build one. PRESENTER: Sarai311 (any/all) is a BIPOC kink educator, poet, and event organizer with a decade of experience across classroom and community learning spaces. She brings eight years of formal teaching and three years of active kink engagement into her work, blending curriculum design, emotionally grounded facilitation, and embodied pedagogy. A doctoral candidate, her research on identity development and culturally relevant pedagogy directly informs her kink education practice. Within the kink community, she has served as a Dungeon Monitor, demo bottom, and board member for Whippersnappers TNG, and is the founder and lead organizer of BIPOC at Frolicon. She presents across the Southeast at events including Frolicon, Southeast Leatherfest, and Dark Odyssey, and has been published thrice in Black Leather in Color Magazine. Sarai311 is also the author of 'What We Could Never Be' and 'Unholy Attachments', and is known for creating spaces where kink, identity, and intentional self-exploration can safely coexist. TICKETING: $20 - $40 in advance. Please pay at the level you can comfortably afford. https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/36b8033347 We offer a sliding scale, so that cost is not a barrier to attendance. So - that's it! Choose the level you can comfortably afford. Patreon members at the VIP+ level may get discounted tickets for $10. Just see your Patreon membership emails for this month's discount code. Find out more at Patreon.com/WickedGrounds! If cost is a barrier at any level, please use the "Volunteer List" to request a free scholarship ticket. We will award as many scholarship tickets as we can on a space-available basis. ACCESS: This will be a live, online class offered through Zoom. To participate, you may need to download the free, basic version of the Zoom app before the class! This class will be recorded and provided to attendees for viewing up to one week after the class date. Zoom now provides closed captioning, which will be available for this event.

Social21+✦ Beginner-friendly

Wicked Grounds Presents: SpankLab!

Hosted by Wicked Grounds

Wed, Sep 2, 20267:00 PM – 9:00 PM🇺🇸 Folsom Street Community Center, San Francisco, CA

Want to pick up new tips and tricks for impact play -- hands on? Join Wicked Grounds for SpankLab! --- Wicked Grounds Presents: SpankLab! A peer-led skill share to explore impact play Hosted by @impossiblepain SpankLab is something like a rope jam for impact play. We build community connections while learning skills from each other in a lighthearted, low-pressure space. SpankLab welcomes people new to the scene or curious about impact play, as well as experienced players looking to hone or expand their bottoming and topping skills. Bring toys if you have them, and wear whatever you like! @impossiblepain will be available throughout the event to monitor for safe play and as a resource for questions and hands-on instruction. 7 to 7:15: Impact play demo (different demo monthly!) 7:15: DOORS CLOSE Please note: late arrivals after 7:15 will not be admitted and will not be refunded. Plan accordingly! 7:15-7:30: Review of rules and guidelines, toys show-and-tell 7:30-9: Socialize, observe, and practice impact play! SpankLab Rules & Guidelines Further explanation will be provided at the event, but you can contact @impossiblepain or @WickedGrounds on FetLife, or email eventsassistant@wickedgrounds.com beforehand if you have questions Ask before touching people Ask before touching toys Ask before giving feedback Use common sense and trust your gut! Sex-positive space, not sex-active No phones or photography Voyeurism is participation — It’s okay to just watch Dungeon etiquette review PRESENTER impossiblepain is an impact switch, a gleeful sadist, and an accomplished masochist. They have been playing publicly with consensual violence since 2014. impossiblepain enjoys kink instruction that makes safe, creative, and whimsical play feel accessible to anyone. They have been hosting SpankLab since 2021. You are welcome to follow them on FetLife! @impossiblepain GROUP Want to learn more about SpankLab? Join our new group on FetLife! TICKETING Tickets: $20-$40 in advance or at the door. Please pay at the level you can comfortably afford. The regular ticket is $30. This is what most people should pay. https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/ff74e48954 ACCESS In SF, this class will be held at the Folsom Street Community Center, at 1286 Folsom Street, San Francisco, CA 94103, near 9th and Folsom. Please note: Doors will close at 7:15. For the safety of all participants, anyone not checked in before that time will be turned away without a refund. Please plan accordingly. Please do not attend in person if you have any respiratory symptoms whatsoever. Anyone displaying signs of respiratory symptoms may be asked to leave, regardless of vaccination status. This event is an inclusive, queer, and sex-positive safe space.

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Leather Archives & Museum

Leather Archives & Museum

Preserving the history and material culture of leather kink, fetish and BDSM.

Class / Workshop21+💻 Online

ONLINE: Blood, Sweat, & Fears: The Art and Thrill of Blood Play

Hosted by Wicked Grounds

Tue, Sep 8, 20266:00 PM – 8:00 PM💻 Online

For those who crave the sting, the drip, and the rush— this is for you. --- Enter into the visceral and intoxicating world of Blood Play, where sensation and surrender meet danger and transcendence. From the sharp kiss of spiked implements to the intimate precision of cutting and cupping, we’ll explore how pain, pleasure, and power bleed together. For those who crave the sting, the drip, and the rush— this is for you. Learn safety essentials, techniques, and the dark delicious creativity of drawing blood with intention. Whether you're a seasoned player or a curious explorer, come ready to revel in the exquisite agony of broken flesh. Each drop of blood is a story, a sacrifice, a thrill. This isn’t just play—it’s art, ritual, and raw intensity. There will be an explicit live demo not for the faint of heart Open to all genders, sexualities, and experience levels. Come and play! PRESENTER: Jamie Joy (they/them) is a queer trans Jewish certified sex educator and hungry slut for freaky fantasies. Their life and work is committed to spreading joy, consent, and pleasure through community orgynizing. They have been educating on a wide range of topics related to sex and sexuality for the past 10+ years with experience in K-12 schools, health clinics, college campuses, adult sex shops, national conferences, BDSM dungeons, non-profits, community organizations, and more. Jamie Joy loves to stay up late, throw an unforgettable party, and teach people about the wonders of fisting and fire play. They are always excited to connect and collaborate - find them on Instagram @thebadjewboy or their website www.jamiejoy.com TICKETING: https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/8368ce590a $30 suggested. We offer multiple price points, so that cost is less of a barrier to attendance. Choose the level you can comfortably afford. Patreon members at the VIP+ level may get discounted tickets for $20. Just see your Patreon membership emails for this month's discount code. Find out more at Patreon.com/WickedGrounds! If cost is a barrier at any level, please use the "Volunteer List" to request a free scholarship ticket. We will award as many scholarship tickets as we can on a space-available basis. ACCESS: This will be a live, recorded online class offered through Zoom. To participate, you may need to download the free, basic version of the Zoom app before the class! This class will be recorded and distributed to those who registered. Zoom now provides closed captioning, which will be available for this event.

Class / Workshop21+💻 Online

Pentacles of Power: A Six-Week Sex Magick Intensive for Kinky People

Hosted by Wicked Grounds

Sep 8–Oct 13, 2026💻 Online

Practical sex magick for solo and partnered practitioners --- This six-week virtual course launching in September 2026 will include self-directed work and collaborative live sessions via Zoom. Over the course of six weeks you will learn by doing: Working with the energetic body Sigil magick Raising energy with sex and S/m The basics of pentacle magick Miriam Green's twinned pentacles of power exchange and more We will have weekly meetings -- generally on Tuesday evenings -- and homework throughout the workshop. All weekly meetings will be recorded for those who cannot attend live. Expect a total of three hours coursework per week, plus daily practice in sitting meditation and journaling. Go deeply into creating your own magickal frameworks I have been teaching magick since 2004 and teaching BDSM since 2014. The work we'll engage in together goes well beyond what I can teach in a typical 90-minute intro class. We'll work with the tools and techniques I use most often, including personal D/s pentacles I developed in 2006 and have never taught to students outside of this workshop. Our six-week course will go live September 8 - October 13, 2026, and will include pre-recorded video lessons, written lessons, and six live sessions of about 93 minutes each (pre-recorded if you cannot attend live). Who is Miriam BatAsherah Green? Miriam BatAsherah Green is a full-time BDSM educator and coach who has been teaching magick since 2004 and kink since 2014. Miriam is an initiated witch in the Reclaiming tradition and a proud member of Ordo Templi Orientis. Miriam's kabbalah and tarot classes have long demystified occult practice, and they look forward to bringing this approach to practical sex magick.

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Leather Archives & Museum

Leather Archives & Museum

Preserving the history and material culture of leather kink, fetish and BDSM.

SponsorPaid placement
Leather Archives & Museum

Leather Archives & Museum

Preserving the history and material culture of leather kink, fetish and BDSM.

SponsorPaid placement
Leather Archives & Museum

Leather Archives & Museum

Preserving the history and material culture of leather kink, fetish and BDSM.

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