The first step in negotiating is voicing what we want. But many of us run into challenges: What do I want? As I figure that out, how do I feel safe talking out loud about my desires?

This six week course is designed to help kinksters and other erotic adventurers get un-stuck around our evolving desires and how to ask for them. This work is perfect for anyone launching a new phase in their erotic journeys (or feeling stuck in an old phase).

About Miriam Green
Miriam Green has been in the public kink scene for over twenty years in the Austin, Houston, and San Francisco scenes. They teach a series of KINK 101 classes on the SF kink community, BDSM negotiations, and dating while kinky. They also are the owner of Wicked Grounds, San Francisco's leader in BDSM education and community building.

How we'll engage


The six week course will run live from November 1 - December 14, 2026.

This class will include six total weeks of content and homework, three 90-minute live online group sessions on Monday evenings (all recorded for later participation if needed), and at least one half-hour individual consult with instructor Miriam Green. (Our class tiers include the option to add more consulting for your own journey.)

Our three 90-minute live group sessions will be offered via Zoom on Monday, November 2; Monday, November 23; and Monday, December 7 - all at 6pm Pacific time.

Sessions will be recorded for later viewing or for those who cannot attend the sessions live.


Is this course for you?


Do you get stuck when asked "what do you want in intimate relationships?"
Are you uncomfortable telling partners about your desires and kinks?
Have you been doing the same thing for a long time and want to find new routes to eroticism?
Do you want a deep understanding of the physical and psychological responses you have to kink?
Do you want to connect deeply with others?


Then yes: this course is for you!